Why Should I Get Married? Pt 3
My son has been living with his Jewish girlfriend for the last two years and is now talking about having a child. All my urging to get married first are falling on deaf ears, as they don’t see what they’ll gain by being married over how they’re living now. They don’t accept my argument that the baby would be considered illegitimate. I would much appreciate any insights you have for me to relate to them.
Why Should I Get Married? Pt 2
My son has been living with his Jewish girlfriend for the last two years and is now talking about having a child. All my urging to get married first are falling on deaf ears, as they don’t see what they’ll gain by being married over how they’re living now. They don’t accept my argument that the baby would be considered illegitimate. I would much appreciate any insights you have for me to relay to them.
Maimonides
Who was Maimonides and what are his “principles” that I’ve often heard references to?
“Luck” in Judaism
You once wrote at the end of a column, “best of luck.” As far as I know (from my own understanding and from hearing the teachings of a Rabbi on the subject), Jews do not believe in “luck.” The rabbi’s reasoning is that “luck” actually requires randomness, fortuitous “chance” and an assumption that nobody and nothing is in charge. Judaism’s core is “Ad-noy Ehad,” “ein od mi lavado,” there’s no power but G-d. G-d is the very fabric of all there is, and is continuously re-creating all. Luck is a contrary belief to His omniscience. I’m sure you know all that, but I write just because I always find it interesting when our language, even of trivial phrases, runs against our actual understanding.
Love and Marriage
I was recently married to a wonderful man; from the moment we saw each other it was one of those “love at first sight” stories you think only exists in fiction. Now that we’re married, I’m more concerned that the love should continue “at second sight.” I know too many people for whom it didn’t last, and I want to do things differently. Is there a Jewish way to help ensure that our love should endure?